Helen Keller wisely said, “The struggle of life is one of our greatest blessings. It makes us patient, sensitive, and Godlike. It teaches us that although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it.”
Those things that hurt us, instruct us. In fact what strengthen us are not our successes but our problems – Our challenges. They call forth our courage and wisdom, and it’s because of problems that we grow mentally and spiritually; it’s through the pain of confronting and resolving problems that we move forward in life. It’s always our choice. To move forward – take that risk, and that’s when fantastic things begin to happen!
The birth of a child with a disability, or the discovery that a child has a disability, can have profound effects on the family. I have an insight that I have gained through my own experience of having a differently abledchild. I do not forget the pain – it aches in a particular way when I look back at my initial years of motherhood. But someone has rightly said, “When life gives you a kick, let it kick you forward“.
Life has also given me a hard kick. Initial years were very tough. Life at times seems pointless, aimless and colourless. That first year of my son was dreadful. Many people offered hard kick by leaving me at that time when I needed them most. Working late hours in office, managing household affairs, looking after my son and husband and ensuring all things, small and big, are taken care of have had become the daily tale.
Driving every day around 50 kms to get my son’s eyes stimulated hoping some miracle could happen. This I did for complete 2 years. Miracle did not happen though I was drained and divested. However, a realisation engulfed me. I realised that instead of crying for people who were supposed to be with me and my son let me see at those people who wanted to see me lively and happy. I had so much to be grateful for. Today I have a feeling of being an iron lady. I have my gratitude to all people (those who bid good bye and those lent support) for offering me a kick. If they would have not kicked me at that time, I would have not been today self-independent, fearless and confident. Their kick has moved me forward. I have learned and grown in many aspects more than any other time in my life. Above all I learned about unconditional love.
When our life accepts a kick, growth is endless and our lives change and change us beyond anticipation. Inspire us of dealing with humility, patiently, courageously and make ourselves prepared so that we can negotiate the challenges. This is what I had to do after having my son in my life. And there is no second route to it.
During the process of handling a child we need to stand up ensuring we do not leave any stone unturned. We may get discouraged by the trails of this lengthy process. Remember “a diamond is just a piece of charcoal that handles stress exceptionally well“.
No parent wants his or her child to be sick, disabled, or harmed in any way. It is not an experience anyone expects to have rather it is a journey that is unplanned. A kick of love and faith can do wonders. We should always learn from nature. A baby giraffe falls 10 feet from its mother’s womb and usually lands on its back. Within seconds it rolls over and tucks its legs under its body. From this position it considers the world for the first time and shakes off the last vestiges of the birthing fluid from its eyes and ears. Then as if it is not enough to fall 10 feet when born, the mother giraffe rudely introduces her offspring to the reality of life. New born giraffe learns its first lesson. Then she swings her long pendulous leg outward and kicks her baby so that it is sent sprawling over heels the violent process is repeated over and over again. The struggle rise is monumental. As the baby calf grows tired, the mother kicks again to stimulate its efforts. Finally the calf stands for the first time on its wobbly legs.
When a mother giraffe can do this why can’t us. Just offer a kick – a kick of love and compassion, a kick of believing in your children, a kick of prayer, a kick of faith, a kick of empowerment, kick of tapping your child’s potential, a kick of not getting bogged down by any means, a kick of continuing your efforts to uplift your child and a kick of keep enjoying this treasured journey.
And finally just offer yourself a kick of developing a mindset of a giraffe – “When life gives you a kick, let it kick you forward“.